The choices you make are the choices that make you


There are a lot of voices calling us to make choices. My mailbox is filled with ads filled with luring “buying” choices and I am so stinking susceptible. Commercials picture the yummiest foods, must have automobiles, life-changing makeup products…need I go on?

This time of year begins the lists of the must-have choices to be wrapped and placed under a tree. Sugarplums and sandlots define the little ones. Their eyes are on the prize. Commercials between cartoons bombard their little minds with “must-haves” in riveting colors and sizes and it’s so hard to choose.

I read where a Dad asked his child what he wanted for Christmas and he answered, “Let me check on TV and I’ll get back with you.” Our choices are defined so often by what we watch.

In my family, making decisions often depends on whom you are hanging out with in a given season. One family is on a farm with other like-minded kids. Charlie the pig was a gift intended to keep on giving, but love ruled their choice and Charlie’s bacon has been saved.

Another group is one of young girls. Their world is filled with pink tutus, performances and lots of luscious girl stuff. Imagination fuels their every decision, as does the amount of glitter and sparkle involved.

Then there are the boys — and buddy they are all boys. Fishing, football, baseball and wrestling capture their every waking moments and choices. The teenagers, well who knows: crossfit, art, boys, clothes and cars might be the order of their day. Choices could be skewed depending on the influences of the crowd.

That’ll preach. This time of year making up one’s mind has a lot do with what’s going to be under the tree, but for others it is a choice of what we can give to others. We each are governed by our hopes and dreams and our core beliefs. When our choices become more about what the world says is great, we can get overwhelmed. Debt mounts in more ways than just the pocketbook.

If we seek to find our source in the wisdom God gives and from a heart of gratefulness the world becomes a richer place.

“We make our choices and our choices turn around and make us.” Those are the words from my pastor’s sermon a couple of weeks ago. How true they are, y’all.

So, let’s be wise in our decisions in this season of the year. One gift we can choose is to follow these time-tested scriptures, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6.

Kandi Farris, a freelance correspondent, also is a speaker on matters of faith and values.