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We need each other; it's just hard to admit it

Do it yourself.

Yes, I am a card-carrying member of the "do-it-yourself" club. I'm always in a rush for some reason and I love to get 'er done.

Over the years this has resulted in some interesting finishes. Many times there have been near disasters physically, mentally and emotionally.

One of the craziest habits I have is not waiting for help or for the right equipment to be available. I remember hanging wallpaper at my mom and dad's house and because I didn't know where to find a ladder I simply used a barstool.

That was a problem. I'm vertically challenged. I didn't get a "tall" gene or apparently a "smart" gene. The barstool was a tad shorter than needed causing my arms and neck to be stretched almost beyond repair.

The other issue was the fact the barstool turned around in circles. It was quite literally, a revolving circus. Yes, this wasn't one of my finest moments.

My husband, Cooper, would tell me to work smart. That would involve admitting a need. That would involve taking time to make sure everything necessary to complete a task is readily available, reachable and preferably instructions and a buddy.

At my age, it's evident I'm not a swift learner. Today, was another one of those, quick, I-can-do-it-myself moments. Our church is involved in foster care and the need for luggage or duffel bags has become known. Off the cuff, I decided to find some nice, but affordable ones.

If only, I'd asked first about the best way, the best buy and the best content from someone who's been there and done that. After the fact . . . I now know that all is well.

That'll preach.

We need each other. We need each other's wisdom, experience, shoulder and so much more. Alone, we are, just that, alone. God said, "It is not good for man to be alone."

Follow wisdom found in Proverbs 18, "A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment." Let me repeat myself, "We need each other, y'all."

This is a thank you to all who come alongside to bring encouragement; hope, physical and practical help to others. It's a better way to hang, y'all. You will be more likely to safely navigate life, share joy and divide the pain. I know for me it so much better.

Take it from an ol' gal that's found the joy and the wisdom in "doing it yourself, together."

Kandi Farris, a freelance correspondent, also is a speaker on matters of faith and values.