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Kandi Farris: We all need face time

Face time. My grandkids are good about making sure they are getting face time. The youngest ones have been known to put both pudgy, often gooey hands on your face and turn it so they can look you directly in the eyeball. Face time.

About six-plus years ago I witnessed a scene supporting the theory kids need face time. My little grandson Jackson was about 8 months old. It was on the eve of a very big event. Everyone was worn slap out and ready to hit the sack. Since we were out of town and trying to be a bit frugal I was staying in the same motel suite as my kids.

Jackson was snoozing in the bed with his mom and dad. I was not snoozing. I'm never much of a sleeper, and it was an especially wide-awake kind of night for me so I had a first-hand account of a baby getting his mama's attention. All in all, it was pretty peaceful.

That came to a sudden end. I heard Jackson trying to wake up his mama. It wasn't happening fast enough for him. Suddenly there was a "whap" in the night. Jackson whacked his mama on the shoulder. He wanted face time. It didn't matter to him if it was in the middle of the night. I couldn't do anything but quietly chuckle and remember what my son-in-law always says, "Diaper spelled backwards is repaid."

Eye contact is important. Yet, there are times when those same kids who fought for your attention are on the run. They're desperately trying to avoid having anything resembling "face time."

Once in the presence of the one who's got their number, there is a further desire to hide when the discussion is prefaced with, "Look me in the face when I talk to you." Yikes! Eyes tend to remain lowered.

Being out of sorts with people can really keep some heads down. I mean unresolved "stuff" can keep us from looking them in the eye. That's a shame. Shame, guilt, fear and being too busy can ruin the hope of having good relationships. We need face time, y'all. Doesn't do any good to keep our eyes on the ground, does it?

There you have it. That'll preach. Same thing applies to our spiritual lives. Billy Graham has said that unconfessed sin will often cause us to hide from God. Our face time becomes lost. He also added, "Many years ago, that he heard someone say, "Keep short accounts with God."

We need face time with the Father, y'all. I love the scripture in Psalms that reminds me "face time" with the Lord brings joy to our hearts and shows on our faces. "They looked to Him and were radiant, and their faces were not ashamed." Remember the old song, "Turn our eyes upon Jesus and look full in His wonderful face and the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace."

Make your face to shine upon us Lord. Now, that's some face time.

Kandi Farris, a freelance correspondent, also is a speaker on matters of faith and values.