I (Jeff) often refer to Valentine's Day as "amateur night." What I mean by that is this: if you truly feel strongly toward another person, you don't have to have a special day to show it. You ought to be showing it all the time. At the same time, this does not let you off the hook on Feb. 14.
Sylvia Plath wrote in "The Bell Jar," "If you expect nothing from anybody, you're never disappointed." Initially, Plath's statement may reek of bitterness, but really, at least when it comes to relationships, it's quite brilliant - and accurate.
Have you ever felt so stressed out that you can't even fathom getting through the day, much less having sex that night? You aren't alone. Many people find it difficult to get in the mood for sex when lying awake, trying to navigate the day's endless worries.
Week of Feb. 13- Feb. 19, 2012
Q: As a male who's into bondage as a submissive, I have a tough time bringing up my kink to a potential new partner. How does a guy first discuss the fact that he wants to be tied up by a woman and/or pegged (anally penetrated using a dildo)?
Always be willing to listen to your spouse. Take a deep breath and say, "OK, you have something to say, I want to hear it."
Were we allowed a glimpse of Lana Del Rey's imaginary shopping list based on the references within her first album, "Born to Die," we would see, scribbled in pen with each "i" flower-dotted: Diet Mountain Dew, cocaine, Bacardi rum, a white Pontiac, heart-shaped sunglasses, a Bugatti Veyron sports car, cigarettes, a Jesus for the dashboard, Cristal champagne, Chevron gas, maraschino cherries (for tongue-tying the stems, of course), Pabst Blue Ribbon on ice and cherry schnapps.
The rivalry that has produced the Curse of the Bambino, Bucky Dent, Bill Buckner, David Tyree's catch and disagreeing forms of clam chowder - exposing the nastiness of arrogance and an inferiority complex along the way - has returned.
